The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

Write on: Mon, 01 Jan 2018 by  in Archive Read 3470

3.5/5 stars.

As we usher in a new year, I felt that the time is right for me to post my review for this book, which I find is most relevant in our current urban society.

I don't usually reach for self-help books.  However, the title of this book piqued my curiosity and it perpetually appears on the main page of Audible as a best seller, thus furthering my interest to pick it up.  

As an audiobook, I did enjoy this quite a fair bit as the narrator was good and brought life to the narrative.  Admittedly, the advice contained herein was not ground-breaking, but delivered in a refreshing and humourous manner.  It served as a reminder as to what we probably already know in the deep, dark recesses of our minds, but are too caught up in the hectic modern life and excesses for greater inner reflection.  I find a few of the real-life examples quoted to be quite relevant and effective.

Who you are is defined by what you're willing to struggle for.

The title is slightly misleading as the book is not so much as to how not to give a f*ck but to choose what is important enough to give a f*ck about.  It is about getting our priorities and values right so that we pick the right battles which truly matter in making our lives count for something.  If we start giving a f*ck about every little thing, we will end up spending too much energy on trivial matters and being generally uncontented about life.  While it is fine not to feel positive all the time, learning how to channel that in the right direction and taking charge of your life where it is possible to make a difference are the essential messages the book is getting across to the reader.     

The one theme that was discussed which I feel very strongly about was concerning the 'sense of entitlement' and how this can be destructive in the way one views his or her life.  And social media is probably the biggest culprit in propagating this negative view to a whole new level.  Being constantly bombarded with reality shows, Instagrams and blogs of beautiful people enjoying a beautiful life, we start to ask "Why can't I be like so-and-so?" or "Why can't I have this or that too?". As a 14-year old niece of mine rightly pointed out, Instagram represents filtered existence.  It seems almost natural now for most to block out the unfavourable or darker segments of life or humanity - such as poverty, hunger, war, violence, human trafficking, prostitution, etc.  Instead, we moan and groan about the 'unfortunate circumstances' of not being able to own nice cars and big houses, have great clothes and the requisite body to go with it, go on expensive holidays, or obtain that 'much-deserved' promotion at work - the list goes on and on.

Anyway, I'm rambling - this is a topic that I can go on and on about, but that's not the point about this review.  If you're curious, this is worth a read as it is quite funny and does not take up much time to finish.  Even though much of what is said was nothing new, sometimes we just need that extra nudge.

Last modified on Monday, 01 January 2018 04:53

A self-professed geek and proud of it, I started reading at a tender age and never really stopped until work got in the way for several years.  I regained my voracious appetite for books a few years back and then started to enjoy writing down my thoughts.  I am more of an emotional/instinctual rather than a critical reader. 

Aside from reading, I enjoy outdoor sports (running, hiking, cycling, an occasional frisbee game), photography and travelling.